If then else 。。。

It suddenly occurred to me that if we did took the offer and moved to Singapore then what kind of life will we have?

Instead JY and I move from Shanghai back to Malaysia and she starts schooling there. J work in Singapore while we were in Malaysia. The question is what would happened if we went to Singapore instead?

If we were to be in Singapore then we will be together as a family J, JY and I. JY probably might not be learning music and the pressure might be greater than if she were to study in Malaysia. 

Then it struck me that if we went to Singapore then JY won't be able to spent six years with her maternal grandpa. We can't buy back time spent with them when someone passed away. So if we were in Singapore then JY will never had what she had the past six years with grandpa. I am glad that it happened this way and like what my dad always says "funny but sure" is always right. So no regrets for me. 

For me too I had my six years with him before he passed away. Isn't that lucky. I remember I took him for birthday lunch and looking at him enjoying is what will be in my memory for ever. Creating memories is important. Whether the memories were good or bad it is still better than none. 

But JY lost 6 years with J. J missed out all of JY's achievements and first day of school, first competition and many more. 

But JY and J still have a lot of time to create memories. So no regrets. 

Always spend time with your love ones. When that person is gone then the if then else is of no significant. Always treasure what we had and never question if this then else scenario. 

Always leave it to God. Whatever God arranged for me I will always take it gracefully and I will always remember my father's saying "funny but sure". Everything will turn out well no matter what curveball thrown at me.  😊🐢